The new era has come with new possibilities. On one end, we have so many opportunities to flourish, however, on the other end, our personal challenges are increasing. And the people who are affected by it the most are, kids.
As our children start growing up, their problems also start piling up. And one of the biggest issues that they face is low confidence. Now, there can be many reasons for it, one just as probable as the other.
It could be social media, their personal insecurities, or something completely out of the box. Once we figure that out, our next step is to help them overcome this hurdle.
If we want our children to become independent, and live a happy life, confidence is of the essence. We need to help our children build their confidence so that they can face the world worry-free. And here is how we can do it.
Are we comparing our kids with others?
Now, most of us know that we should not compare our children with anyone else, because everyone has a different life that comes with its own ups and downs. But, there is a possibility that we may be doing it without even realizing it.
Whenever we are talking, we don’t remember everything word-to-word. But, if something of this sort has been said, your kids will remember it for a long time.
Consciously keep in mind that you do not have to put your kids with others on the measuring scale. Now, if you want to share some achievement of another child, remember to make it about that person’s achievement and your child does not have to come into the picture.
Help them discover their ‘hidden gem.’
Every child possesses a unique quality, which when polished will help them reach great heights. However, sometimes, their quality is hidden. So, our children think that they have nothing, hence causing low confidence.
As parents, we are in the best position to help our kids identify their hidden talents. One amazing quality is all your child needs to feel good about themselves.
Let us look at the situation like this, our children are running a marathon and we are the spectators. Now, we cannot help them in the actual process of it. But does that mean we can do nothing for them? Certainly not!
We can be our child’s support system. We can give our kids a boost by encouraging them. Children need that positive energy to move ahead in life, and who better to give them that boost than their parents?
Remember, everyone moves at their own pace.
Every child has his/her own characteristics. Everybody has a unique skill set. But, one thing that we can be sure of is, when given the right atmosphere, every child is going to make it, and that too at their own pace.
What we need to remember is that we have to be patient. If a farmer tries to speed up the process of growing crops, the final product is messed up. Some plants grow quickly, while some take time because everyone is unique.
Don’t fret over their mistakes.
“The greatest mistake a man can ever make is to be afraid of making one.” -Elbert Hubbard
Everyone is supposed to make mistakes because if you never make one you will never know what you are capable of doing. If your children are not making mistakes, it means they are not exploring, and if they are not exploring they are not learning. And if they aren’t learning, what are they doing?
Parents tend to get overly protective of their kids and keep them in a bubble. If they even get one toe out, their parents freak out thinking their kids will falter. But, let me ask you this, what is the problem with it? It is perfectly alright! If they make mistakes and learn crucial life lessons from them, shouldn’t we support it?
Allow them to fail.
“Failure is simply the opportunity to begin again, this time more intelligently.” -Henry Ford
You cannot ever get your life right on the first go. There will be changes that you will have to make along the line to have a great life. But, if you never take the leap fearing what will happen if I fail, you will never know what you were capable of achieving!
And even if that leap did not take us to a better place, it did tell us that we can survive despite that. Thus, we come ahead with at least one learning better than our old self. And this is exactly what we have to understand for our kids.
If your children want to take the step, don’t pull them back for the fear of it. Give them the energy that they need to make it.
Help them develop their mental health.
A child who is strong on the inside will hardly ever succumb to adversities. If your child is mentally strong, rest assured that they are going to be confident. So, our job is to start working on it. Focus more on strengthening them personally.
We cannot guarantee that a person who is doing well in life is sorted personally too. However, the opposite is true. If your child’s personal development is up to date, then you can be assured that your child is going to be successful./
Show your love.
One of the universal facts is that we love our children. But, we need to show it to our kids too. You cannot imagine the power your love holds for them. It gives them a lot of confidence in themselves when someone keeps telling them that, no matter what, they will always cherish you. Some hugs and kisses every once in a while will not go to waste.
So, this is how you can raise confident kids. But remember, this is not a crash course. You are going to have to give it time. You will see results, no doubt about that, but in due course of time.